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The top 30 autism spectrum blogs for 2012

By on April 9, 2012 in Autism

It was just about this time last year when Babble.com contacted me to tell me that I made it into the top 25 autism blogs for 2011… it was quite the shock! I was 21 out of 25.

Well, here I am, once again being shocked as they include me into their now updated list of top 30 autism blogs for 2012! This time, I’m 26 out of 30.

Which is a bit humorous because if they had kept their format and stuck with 25, I wouldn’t have made the cut. So thanks Babble for extending the list!! Oh, and whom ever is 31….. SORRY!

I’m not sharing this list to gloat, it is nice and all but it still doesn’t get me that cherry red corvette I’ve always dreamed of.

Instead, I’m sharing this so that you can check out the rest of the list! Go and read, bookmark and enjoy!

It’s Autism Awareness Month so venture hense forth and become aware of some other great blogs!

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Click to see full list

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A funny thing happened on the way to an autism discussion

By on April 6, 2012 in Autism

I have two boys, one with autism and one without. I happen to think of them equally most of the time and I tend to also talk about them equally.

This sometimes leads to some confusion when I tell everyone that “my son did” something.

And it doesn’t mater what I say he did… it could be the most polar opposite thing that an autistic would do and someone will remark about how their autistic child does that too.

Seeing autism where there is none

These are usually parents but even sometimes autistics themselves who will relate to my younger son, the one without autism. Sometimes it’s understandable, as he may be doing something characteristically autistic, such as shying away from others/crowds, having a meltdown… these things sometimes make me wonder too. Truth is, he’s clearly not autistic. It wouldn’t take you more than 5 minutes with him to see that.

At first it was kinda funny and I’d be sure to explain that I’m not talking about my autistic son… but then it happened more and more until finally I was having full conversations with people about how much this happens to other people too.

Sometimes the mistake is understandable, sometimes it’s a stretch and other times it’s like… there’s just no way.

Setting up the assumption

In a way, it’s a bit leading to begin with… I mean, you’re in the autism community, talking to others in the autism community, in their mind, they’re already preparing for an autism discussion. It’s hard to switch modes once you’re in that frame of mind.

My name in most places is autismfather. So when someone sees my name, they assume that I’ll be talking about an autistic kid. It’s pretty much a given.

This can “direct” the conversation right from the get go. I get that. Still though, I can try as hard as I can to make it clear that it’s not my autistic child that I’m referring to and still get a response about how they can relate due to their own autism situation.

Cameron and Tyler

Cameron and Tyler

Not that I’m complaining

The thing I’ve come to realize is that it’s not really a bad thing, it’s a great thing. The more a typical child can be mistaken for an autistic child, the better. Because it means that the lines are blurring. Even if it is still mostly within the autism community rather than the rest of society.

It’s still a bit comforting to know that my children’t aren’t so different. That I can talk about either, in most situations, and no one will be able to tell if I’m referring to the one that has autism or the one who doesn’t.

Is that how it is for everyone? No, most certainly not. Some people have children that are unable to speak or “function” as would be expected for their age… and so the signs are much more pronounced.

But for me, it’s great to know that Cameron is doing so well that I could mention something that he or his brother are doing and most people wouldn’t be able to tell which son I’m talking about.

It doesn’t make Cameron any less autistic nor does it make Tyler any more autistic, they’re still very different from each other and still both with their respective strengths and weaknesses… but there’s enough of a similarity there that people are unable to just know which one I’m talking about.

And in a way, that gives me hope for the future. For both of them.

Because Cameron is far better off if he can be confused for his brother and, even though some people that think negatively towards autism may disagree, I feel that Tyler is actually better off if there are some ways that he can be confused for his brother too.

Feel free to think he has autism. Feel free to see autism where there is none. I don’t mind at all!

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This is the problem with awareness

By on April 3, 2012 in Autism

Actually, there’s several issues with awareness but for the sake of this being just a simple blog post, let’s stick with the main problem, as I see it:

Awareness breeds fear.

Childhood Awareness

So what happens when a child becomes aware that there are monsters in the world? Real or fictional doesn’t matter, they’re children.

When a child become aware that monsters exist in tales and bed time stories… they fear them. Can you blame them? They’re monsters. But not all monsters are created equal. It could simply be a “bad man” in the story.

They don’t know what the monsters look like, sound like, feel like…  they just know to be scared.

When a child becomes aware of thunder and lightning, quite often, they will fear it. They don’t know what is making that noise but they know to be scared… because they’re aware.

When a child becomes aware of an aunt that has a mustache… well, you get the idea.

The point is, it’s an instinct that usually doesn’t need to be taught or developed… people fear what they are aware of, but do not understand.

Adult Awareness

The proof speaks for itself through out history with differences in races, sexuality… even geography!

If you were to take all of the movies/stories based on aliens and work out the numbers, I would wager that the ones where aliens are evil and want to kill us all far out weigh the stories where the aliens are friendly and all is good in the universe.

Granted, the evil killing aliens makes for a better story and will earn more money but still, the point is, we fear alien invasion because we’re aware but do not understand.

Some adults learn inner peace and work on just being understanding and accepting before the fact… to practice acceptance before awareness. But the people that can do that are very very rare.

Disability Awareness

It’s funny how far understanding can go really. Do we live in fear of cancer or AIDS? Well, sort of but I wouldn’t say we look down on anyone that we meet that has them. Why is that? They’re deadly diseases. We’re certainly aware of them.

Thanks to some very prominent and effective information campaigns over the years, most people have a pretty basic understanding of them. Cancer is not contagious, it happens or it doesn’t. You get regular checks and do checks yourself and if you catch it early enough, and depending on the type, you could be fine.

AIDS, sexual contagion, use protection… yatta yatta yatta. I won’t bore you. You know this stuff.

Now, take stuff that isn’t a disease. That isn’t deadly. That is… mostly unknown.

This is the stuff that shouldn’t scare anyone. But it does. And why? Because it’s not understood.

Whether it’s Down Syndrome, Autism, ADHD… why would these things cause others to fear the person that has them?

Well, it’s because people are aware of Autism, but they don’t have a clue what it is, what it does or how to recognize it. It’s just… out there. They know it’s out there. Thanks to awareness campaigns.

See the difference? Deadly diseases get information campaigns on the signs, who to talk to, how it affects people… neurological disorders get awareness campaigns. They just tell you it’s out there… the end.

Awareness -> Understanding -> Acceptance

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I like to think of awareness as the first step. You can’t understand something if you are not even aware of it.

Now that most people are aware of it’s existence, the next step, which is where most of us struggle, is the understanding.

I think it’s time that people moved beyond awareness and stopped being afraid.

The thing is, a lot of people want for society to move straight on to acceptance of those with down syndrome, autism or any other disability and in a perfect world, this would be the ideal.

However, there is a natural path to these things.

First comes awareness, then there is understanding and finally, acceptance.

People are funny creatures like that.

People will fear what they do not understand (but are aware of) and they only accept a situation once they understand it.

That leaves us with the problem… how do we help society to understand?

Because I can assure you that until we figure that out, all this awareness will only result in fear and will only make moving on to acceptance that much more difficult.

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Autism Awareness Month – Getting Started

By on April 1, 2012 in Autism

So the month has begun… the month to bring Autism Awareness to the world. More so, to go beyond awareness and try to help people understand the people that have autism, help people understand how autism affects those people’s lives and most importantly, why they should want to know more about autism before they it comes time for them to need to know.

To start the month off, I thought I’d start with some straight forward information.

Facts

Blogs

Here are some blogs that I particularly enjoy and find to have very honest, accurate and even bold points of view, where you can and will learn a lot about autism, should you choose to read them.

News

Communities

Autism Understanding and Acceptance

Autism Understanding and Acceptance

My Request To You

I ask that you please take the time to read at least one article/story about autism that comes to you in your travels around the internet during the month of April and share it. Don’t just pick one at random though… pick one that looks like it may really move you or cause you to feel one way or another. Take the time to really read it… even if it’s just that one time.

And if it does move you, for good or bad, just so long as it makes you feel something… share it. Share it with your social media friends/followers… simply because I asked you to.

Please do not share to raise awareness. Everyone has heard of autism by now.

Instead, share to raise understanding. Share to help others be moved as well.

Because if you feel moved, if you feel anything, that means that you’re thinking about the person. It means that you are looking beyond the disorder.

When that happens, as more and more people begin to really understand, we’ll finally begin to see just how silly our notions of “normal” really are and how judging we can be sometimes when someone doesn’t fit that notion.

Only through understanding can there be acceptance. Only through acceptance can we truly be aware.

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From the CDC: 1 in 88 have autism. Will there be rioting in the streets?

By on March 29, 2012 in Autism

As much fun as rioting in the streets can be, what with the free tvs and tear gas… let’s just all just agree to riot on our blogs instead, where there is less pepper spray.

Besides, is 1 in 88 really worth rioting over? I guess to some, it is. To others, it’s not really a surprise.

By the way, if you want to read, direct from the CDC, as to what all of their numbers were and how they got to this total, check out their report here: http://www.cdc.gov/mmwr/preview/mmwrhtml/ss6103a1.htm?s_cid=ss6103a1_e

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So how did we get from 1 in several thousand down to 1 in 110 and now…. 1 in 88? Well, let me recap for you a bit of my history in the world of autism.

My son was diagnosed at 2.5 years of age… which was about a LONG time after I had requested it. Why so long?

At 1.5 years of age, I asked my family doctor if he thought that my son could be autistic. He knew my son rather well, I went over all the signs and concerns I had… everything I knew about my child, I put out there for him to hear.

He told me that Cameron was fine, he’s really bright, he doesn’t seem to have anything obviously wrong with him…. just give it time. And so we did.

Shortly before he turned 2, I asked again. This time, said that he felt that I didn’t need to bring him in for an assessment and that it’s perfectly normal for boys to not talk at 2.. and to be “quirky.” I insisted. He said that they don’t do assessments for children until they’re 2 years of age so I’ll have to wait either which way…  he’ll put in a request then.

So he puts in the request, we finally hear back from the hospital… his appointment is made for February. He turned 2 in July. Sheesh!

He was diagnosed “moderate to severe PDD-NOS”.

Why am I telling you this story?

Think about it… if my doctor can miss it, even advise against me getting the assessment done… how many other doctors are doing the same? Forget doctors… how many parents are out there missing it? I bet a parent insisting so much is far more rare than we’d like to think it is.

As awareness and information continues to grow, doctors and parents are becoming far more able to recognize the signs. MUCH better! But remember, my story was only from a few years ago.

So even though we’ve come a long way in the last 50 years, we’re not there yet!

As we continue to reach everyone though, the more children will get assessed. You have to understand, if more doctors can recognize it, if more parents can insist on it…. more children will be assessed… and therefore, diagnosed!

The numbers go up!

On top of that, how many children have been and still are being misdiagnosed? Sure there are a lot of children going without a diagnosis but there’s also a lot of children being misdiagnosed. Some children are being diagnosed with ADHD or OCD or SPD…. when in reality it’s a bit of all those things, which may add up to autism (might not too, but you get the point).

So again, as doctors and parents learn…. those wrongly diagnosed people are being reassessed and given the proper diagnosis… and the people that have yet to be assessed might be given the right diagnosis.

To make matters worse, we have the ever changing definitions put forth by the DSM. It was just the last one that first introduced PDD-NOS and Asperger’s into the Autism Spectrum umbrella to begin with. You just know that’s going to increase the numbers.

Then you have geography. Some areas are simply different than others. Some states have educators making the diagnosis, others have neurologists while others go to a pediatrician. And again, some places have more money than others, more resources, better understanding and more differences that can increase or decrease their ability to make proper assessments.

But what about toxins?

I know what you’re thinking… this is all about genetics and avoiding the issue of environmental toxins. Well, no. All of what I just explained *could* maybe explain all of the increases in numbers, but then it might not either.

The truth is that environmental toxins have most definitely increased over time… especially in the last 150-200 years or so… with industrial and technological ages moving faster and faster.

Do I think it’s vaccines? No. Do I think it could be *something* or a combination of a lot of somethings? Fact is, I just don’t know but it certainly could be.

We’re all living life a little differently than our ancestors did… inside and out. We eat, drink and breathe differently than they did.

However, I do know that our environment most certainly does not account for the entire increase. It does not make the numbers go up all by itself.

If our environment does have an effect on the numbers, then I believe that it’s all of the other stuff I’ve mentioned in combination with it.

Ready to riot?

Now the fun part, let’s riot!!

No, not in the streets and no, not in fear.

The truth is, new numbers or not… nothing has changed. The world is what it is whether or not we crunch some numbers.

What we need to do, together, is use the numbers to further educate and further make aware… if it means increasing the numbers even more, so be it! Let no little autistic go undiagnosed! Parents and doctors should NOT be missing it.

Actually, if you think about it, it’s a bit ironic. We raise awareness because the numbers continue to rise and in so doing, we cause the numbers to rise even more! And then when they do, we freak out and raise more awareness! 

The point is, if ever there was a reason to riot, this is it. We need services. We need help.

Not just us parents but the entire community. Autistics need more help in school, more help in the workforce, more help in life. Not to do everything for them but to be there for them when they need it!

My son is growing up. One day he’ll outgrow the services available to him. I would love to know that he can find work that won’t judge him or treat him unfairly, I would love to know that he’ll have services he can take advantage of if he needs to… whether he’s living on his own or not.

I would love to know that if my son wants to and is able to, he can do any job he wants to do, be anywhere he wants to be and do anything he wants to do, because he can, rather than being told that he can’t because of the label that others use to hold against him.

Riot.
Not to stop the numbers from going up.
To help the people that those numbers represent.

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