As a father of  a child with Autism, I find discussions and information around the Internet at an ever growing rate, which I find encouraging. But it seems to be almost exclusively from moms, about moms or at the very least, from a mom’s perspective.

That’s fine really, since no one will ever be able to take the place of a child’s mom, much less when the child has special needs. I can tell you, from my own experience, that no one is more important in my son’s life, nor more capable of telling you everything about his life and his disorder than his mom is, however I can also tell you that being a father comes with it’s own set of challenges and experiences.

I think it’s no secret that men in general are simply less capable of dealing with emotion, family hardships and probably hardest of all… accepting that their child isn’t perfect and there’s nothing they can do about it.

We, as men, bottle it up and would rather find our own hammer and nails, and keep working at it until it’s fixed rather than talk to someone about it much less be taught what to do.

I am a father of two boys, my oldest has Autism and I may be one of the few male voices out there, but I’m going to tell my story anyway. Maybe it’ll help some other fathers out there, maybe even some mothers.

Even if it doesn’t, it’ll help me down the road and possibly even my son… this is my journal, my introduction to Autism.

About Stuart Duncan

My name is Stuart Duncan, creator of http://www.stuartduncan.name. My oldest son (Cameron) has Autism while my younger son (Tyler) does not. I am a work from home web developer with a background in radio. I do my very best to stay educated and do what ever is necessary to ensure my children have the tools they need to thrive. I share my stories and experiences in an effort to further grow and strengthen the online Autism community and to promote Autism Understanding and Acceptance.

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One Response to Welcome!

  1. Gordon Pugliese July 18, 2013 at 8:42 pm #

    Hello. I’m Gordon. The leader of the youth church group is allowing my 17yr old son to stay in his home, therefore enabling my son to act out his compulsive behaviour. My son has PDD-NOS. He does not recognise a lot of the social behavioural patterns and lacks empathy. The church leader does not understand autism and feels he is doing God’s work by allowing my son to be free to engage his obsessive behaviour. My son has lost his job, failed courses at school, breaks the law and torments his family for his compulsions. The church group leader feels that I am evil for regulating my sons internet and computer access, imposing a curfew, and providing the structure of regular healthy meals and study. Because my son is over 16yrs old, he is allowed to be away from home so the police wont go and retrieve him. The onis is on me to contact Children’s Aid and secure an order for the police to retrieve him and bring him home to the routine that I struggle so hard to maintain. Has anybody else ever been faced with this situation, where-as the autistic individual makes such self-destructive decisions? I want a cease and desist and a restraining order against these youth group activists. Any feedback is appreciated. Best regards; Gordon

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