The “Which Would You Rather” Game Is a Very Dangerous Game Indeed

Probably the most prominent example, and the one to start it all off, is Jenny McCarthy’s interview where she says (and I paraphrase as best I can) “Would I rather my son have measles instead of Autism? yes, in a heart beat”.

Granted, measles doesn’t sound so bad so I’d have to agree with her, I think I’d rather my boy be sick for a while, help him get through it for a little while and then go on with his life, instead of having Autism for life.

However, that’s just one of many diseases and viruses that are held back by vaccines…  mumps and rubella aren’t really all that bad either, can be fatal but very rarely. Chances are my boy would just be sick for a while.

What gets me though, is that, in the interview, no one asks her if she’d rather have her child be disfigured or paralysed from polio, no one ever asks her if she’d rather kill someone else’s baby with whooping cough than risk her child having Autism.

Sounds a little harsh, but if you look to California, it’s happening! An outbreak of pertussis (whooping cough) is happening right now, today, and it’s killing babies. Why?

Here’s the thing, some parents are convinced, absolutely and completely, that vaccines are causing Autism in children, and therefore are not taking the risk.

Let’s take a look at that risk for a moment, because I think this is where the system breaks down.

If a parent does not vaccinate their child, that child can contract a preventable illness such as whooping cough, and then come into contact with a baby sibling or some other baby, pass along the illness before that baby even has a chance at getting their vaccination and that child could die.

Meanwhile, there’s no guarantee that their child won’t already have Autism despite not being vaccinated! Recently a woman commented on another of my posts about how one mother did not vaccinate, another did, both of their children are Autistic.

This isn’t a debate about whether or not vaccines do cause Autism, it’s about the risk. Taking a risk, avoiding a risk, choosing which risk to take.

Let me put it this way, if you “don’t take the chance” by not vaccinating your child, and he/she turns out to be Autistic anyway AND comes home to infect your newborn baby and that baby dies… not only did you not avoid the risk, you took the ultimate risk and lost both times!

Some of you die hards will say that would never happen but, it can happen. We are seeing it right now. Unvaccinated children are Autistic. Unvaccinated children are dying from preventable diseases!!

The “Which Would You Rather” game is not a game, it’s very…. VERY dangerous.

I understand how watching your child be ‘vaccine injured’ can set you on a path, set you on a mission… however, I can also see how a much bigger tragedy can come of it if not careful. If your child regressing into Autism affected you this much, how much would it affect you if your child got Autism and a baby died at the same time, all because you didn’t vaccinate.

Would you still feel the same? Would your mission be different?

About Stuart Duncan

My name is Stuart Duncan, creator of My oldest son (Cameron) has Autism while my younger son (Tyler) does not. I am a work from home web developer with a background in radio. I do my very best to stay educated and do what ever is necessary to ensure my children have the tools they need to thrive. I share my stories and experiences in an effort to further grow and strengthen the online Autism community and to promote Autism Understanding and Acceptance.

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5 Responses to The “Which Would You Rather” Game Is a Very Dangerous Game Indeed

  1. Dani G July 6, 2010 at 4:07 pm #

    While I don’t agree with everything that Jenny McCartney says (we don’t have the same experience), I do agree that I’d rather have my kiddo afflicted with Measles than Autism. Ditto chicken pox, and maybe even diphtheria. But, of course, my kid HAS Autism so I know just how much that sucks. My Little Bird was completely vaccinated up until she was 3. It was around that time that we were able to recognize just how compromised her little system was (is). We showed up for her 4 year check up and were told they wanted to give her MMR, DTaP, Polio, Varicella. If you’re counting, that’s 8 viruses. Whoa. At that same check up, they voiced concerns that she’s WAY too skinny, her muscle tone is WAY too weak, and she’s considered WAY developmentally delayed. Still, they wanted all 8 viruses to go in. It was WAY too much for her (and me). Actually, I’d already published a blog post about gearing up for the check-up, knowing I would decline the vaccines this time around. My reasoning was that I wanted to wait until she was stronger and better able to handle the shots. The pediatrician walked into the room and said, “Well, I’ve already read your blog so I know we’re vaccinating today. You just need to sign here, here, and here.” Shortly after that I had titres drawn on Little Bird and found that she held enough immunity to the biggies (MMR, DTaP) and that the boosters were not necessary at this point. Of course, it’s much more expensive to draw the titres than to manufacture and give vaccines- whether they’re necessary or not.
    I must stress that I DO NOT BELIEVE VACCINES CAUSED MY CHILD’S AUTISM. But… I’d NEVER question another mom or dad. They saw what happened. They were there. I do believe that one size does NOT fit all and that the AAP gives too much too soon. So, again, I think my child was born with her disability, but I do regret blindly following the doctors orders to get a flu shot during pregnancy and giving Little Bird the Hep B vaccine at birth. I wish I knew there was another option. If nothing else, these vaccine wars should help raise awareness that we parents do not have to do whatever the doctors say. These are OUR babies and we should be able to choose what we put into them- and when- and how.

    • Stuart Duncan July 6, 2010 at 4:34 pm #

      You make a good point, and I didn’t put it into my post, but I should have…..

      I don’t agree with the amount of vaccinations nor the lack of education towards them. We don’t get all the info about exactly what is in them or what it does, we don’t get information as to why and what we’re getting most of the time and so on and so forth.

      There needs to be some reform, some accountability and some changes in how our choices are presented and available to us. As the ‘system’ is right now, we’re very much left in the dark and having to hope for the best with the choices we make.

      I think what I’m saying is, we need to beat down the doors and get changes made, more so than we need to boycott what has already proven to save lives.

  2. Shane July 7, 2010 at 12:08 am #

    Hi Dani,

    I have to admit, I *DO* question other parents decisions all the time. Feed their kid a donut instead of a fruit cup when out at a coffee shop? Great dietary habits being promoted there. Cussing out the waiter at a restaurant in front of your kids – awesome, some more little jerks coming up for the rest of society to deal with.

    But I can live with that for the most part, even though it’s my tax dollars going to support all those obese folks…

    What I don’t think is right is ignoring things like a polio vaccine. I’m sorry, that’s just ignorant.

    On the whole though, I think I agree with you that the vaccination schedule is a little wonky (why don’t we space them out a bit differently? I know my daughter gets a fever and is sick for a day or two each time) and the information handed out to parents is negligible. I learned more in 5 minutes from google than I got from the hospital/dr/whatever (and my family dr is awesome).

    What’s sad is that 90% of the information you find online about vaccinations are completely unfounded claims by parents. I can only guess how much worse this is going to get. Will we see more outbreaks of diseases we once thought were gone? Because more and more parents are turning to the web for information and finding all these unfounded claims on how vaccinations cause all sorts of issues – from autism to weakened immune systems and more.

    Measles doesn’t sound so bad… until you read that it has a 1:1000 chance of causing a life altering change for the worse aka – permanent brain damage. 1:1000 is a pretty high risk ratio.

  3. Autumn Washington October 5, 2010 at 5:47 am #

    mumps is so damn painfull that i don’t wanna hear about -,;

  4. Alain October 25, 2010 at 6:44 am #

    Love the blog. The history of vaccinations is rife with doubts about vaccination. Wikipedia has a succinct summary of the history of vaccine controversies: The storm caused by Wakefield and McCarthy will subside.

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