Your hands tell me when you’re happy

Christmas was one week away, the excitement building as we prepared presents for friends and family. We laughed as we changed the words to our favorite Christmas songs, drank Egg Nog and opened the next door to find out what shape the next chocolate was in our advent calendars.

happy handsAs we talk about Santa and what each of us is hoping for, I lean over to my son Cameron and say “Do you know how I always know when you’re happy?”

He said “No, how?”

I replied “Your hands tell me.”

He smiled and said “because I flap my hands!”

At that point, he began bouncing on his toes and flapping his hands so hard that I thought he might fly.

Beside us, sitting up against my hip, was my dog Spirit. She is Cameron’s best friend and, I think, Cameron is her best friend too.

I said to Cameron “Cameron, do you know how I always know when Spirit is happy?”

He said “No.”

I told him “Because her tail tells me.”

Again, the excitement building as he flapped his hands really hard, “She wags her tail!!”

I explained to him that Spirit doesn’t have hands so she wags her tail but I imagine that it’s very much the same feeling. There’s just so much happiness inside that it has to come out.

I told him that I know some people might bug him about it, some people might say silly things or tell him that he shouldn’t… but I’ll never stop him from showing me how happy he is.

He got up and gave me a big hug.

About Stuart Duncan

My name is Stuart Duncan, creator of My oldest son (Cameron) has Autism while my younger son (Tyler) does not. I am a work from home web developer with a background in radio. I do my very best to stay educated and do what ever is necessary to ensure my children have the tools they need to thrive. I share my stories and experiences in an effort to further grow and strengthen the online Autism community and to promote Autism Understanding and Acceptance.

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14 Responses to Your hands tell me when you’re happy

  1. Brooks December 19, 2011 at 10:19 am #

    Stuart, bless you good man…this is perfect in every way!

  2. Stuart Duncan December 19, 2011 at 10:51 am #

    Thank you Brooks

  3. ictus75 December 19, 2011 at 4:38 pm #

    Beautiful analogy. Beautiful post. Thank you.

  4. Dixi December 19, 2011 at 5:35 pm #

    What a beautiful way of seeing this.

  5. Julie December 19, 2011 at 11:04 pm #

    A beautiful way of looking at it. No doubt that both your boys know you love them unconditionally!

  6. Tara (@Gr82chat) December 19, 2011 at 11:14 pm #

    .. and this is why he will have a healthy intact self esteem because you are teaching him it’s okay to be himself. Regardless of others the impact this will have will keep him strong. Bless x

  7. gloria crane December 20, 2011 at 12:31 pm #

    Love this article love your attitude about your son He will grow up being sure of him self and your love for him

  8. Michael Broderick December 20, 2011 at 2:04 pm #

    A wonderful story. Thank you.

  9. Jan Hazirci December 20, 2011 at 4:05 pm #

    Well done for having that fantastic attitude, your children are growing and thriving in positivity…thanks for sharing 🙂 x x

  10. Dawn December 20, 2011 at 5:44 pm #

    Tara’s and Gloria’s comments made me think of a movie I saw with Claire Dane’s based on Temple Grandin’s life and work.

    What a blessing he has you as a dad! And I’m sure you feel the same way about him!

  11. jess December 20, 2011 at 6:33 pm #

    i love this. everything about it.

    merry christmas to you and your beautiful boy, may his hands always be happy.

  12. Johnny December 20, 2011 at 9:02 pm #

    I totally understand you. My son also flap his hands when he is really happy, and I will never stop him either. Thanks.

  13. Alexander December 21, 2011 at 12:14 am #

    Thank you!

  14. Sharon from Mamas Turn Now December 21, 2011 at 10:47 am #

    Tears of Joy in my eyes right now! So sharing this on my site! LOVE IT!

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