How Do You Change The World For Your Autistic Child When You’re A No One?

This is not a rhetorical question, I’m sorry if you are here hoping to find an answer… because I don’t have one. I’m kind of hoping that some of you will reply with some ideas because I’m fresh out. I don’t mean to sound like a downer, but let’s face it, we all want what is best for not only our own children but also for all those yet to be born, with or without Autism.

None of us are Superman, and even he can’t change the ways of man… the greed inherent in humans shows it’s ugly head to us every single day with oil spills, economic collapses built on risky wheeling and dealing at the top, pharmaceutical companies putting profits before health and so on and so forth. How does the average person like me contend with all of this?

I would like to think that if I stick with this blog, if I stick with my minuscule little presence in the ever growing online Autism community, maybe I will play some small role.. maybe my ever so tiny voice will be that last little bit needed to push the community voice from unheard to world changing… then again, I could win the lottery too.

Becoming part of the community has been great, I’ve met some wonderful people that truly are making a difference.. we all know how much awareness Jenny McCarthy and Holly Peete have raised, but they’re celebs. Some people have started up amazing organizations such as Autism Speaks but they’re philanthropists and entrepreneurs. One amazing dad is even running 60 marathons to raise awareness… but then, he’s good at that.

Me? I… hmm… I don’t really have any skills to speak of. I am not a doctor, scientist, athlete, celebrity, no business skills, don’t have a clue about raising money much less having a charity, I don’t have shirts to sell, no radio station, I don’t have wise words of wisdom, I have no real advice to give or knowledge to be writing articles/books and the list goes on and on. I’m just your average guy that started a blog with a terrible domain name and decided to jot down some of my experiences. That’s the best I’ve got and it… gets 20 visitors a day.

I feel so very lost in a world of great people doing great things while I sit here and try to write something positive.  I’ve written some pretty negative stuff actually, but I never do hit the publish button. It’s a bit like therapy at the time, get it all out, into words and then erase it. I figure, maybe I can’t change the world but I do know that bringing other people down won’t help, plus, that’s not the purpose of me sharing with you.

In the end, I guess all I can really ever do is do my best for my children. To always be there, always support them, always encourage them and just do my best to teach them right from wrong… and from there, I hope for the best.

I can’t change the world no matter how much I really wish I could… I can’t even make anything better in my own life. But I’ll never stop trying to prepare my boys for what is out there. I’ve missed my chances, if there were any… but my boys have a long life ahead of them filled with limitless possibilities.

Maybe they will change the world. I can’t do much, but I can dream.

About Stuart Duncan

My name is Stuart Duncan, creator of http://www.stuartduncan.name. My oldest son (Cameron) has Autism while my younger son (Tyler) does not. I am a work from home web developer with a background in radio. I do my very best to stay educated and do what ever is necessary to ensure my children have the tools they need to thrive. I share my stories and experiences in an effort to further grow and strengthen the online Autism community and to promote Autism Understanding and Acceptance.

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3 Responses to How Do You Change The World For Your Autistic Child When You’re A No One?

  1. Rose Wade June 14, 2010 at 3:54 pm #

    Another insightful blog post, Stuart. I’ve felt the exact same way in the recent weeks that I started The Robin Hood Lego Campaign.

    Trying to convince a huge toy company to create a certain type of toy is a large task for a relatively small, unknown person.

    I’ve had people tell me it was a silly idea. At times when the campaign seems to stall, that’s how I feel. I’ve asked myself the same questions: Will people not support the campaign because they dislike Russell Crowe, or the film Robin Hood? Do enough people care to understand what Autism really is? Does anyone believe how much a simple toy can help a child?

    I don’t have concrete answers. And I still feel insignificant at times…a lot of times. But, I have seen the huge positive changes in my Autistic son because of simply playing with legos.

    Keep up with your blog, Stuart. You’re doing a great job. I may be only reaching a few people with my blog, but it’s the comments and encouragement of readers, and my son’s progress that reassure me I’m doing the right thing.

    @}– Rose
    http://therobinhoodlegocampaign.webs.com/

    • Stuart Duncan June 15, 2010 at 9:01 am #

      Yeah, it’s pretty amazing and must be a very overwhelming task that you’ve set out on. I really truly do wish you much success with it, I really hope it takes off.

      I think you’ll get the support for it, it seems like one of those things where it’ll just prod along at a slow pace until one day, like a light switch is flicked and suddenly it goes almost too fast for you to handle. It just takes one right person in one right time to decide they like it and the next day you’ll be riding the roller coaster and wondering what you got yourself into.

      I can’t see myself ever doing anything even close to compare to that, much less anything beyond that… but, as much as I really wish I could, I think Ill be ok with that so long as I can keep my boys happy, healthy and at least somewhat prepared for what lies ahead of them.

  2. Marthea Baskerville June 15, 2010 at 5:58 pm #

    Hi Stuart, I’m part of a non-profit group that started to help families in our community. Like you, we have no clue about raising money nor do we have any. But what we do have is a love for our community and community organization that support those in the community.

    My group is called NOG Productions, Inc and we team with other non-profit charitable organizations in our communities to help them raise money, awareness, educate on who they are, what they do. Each year we team with a different non-profit and this yr we have teamed with the local chapter of the Autism Society of Greater Orlando, FL.

    We host an annual free concert for the charity we are spotlighting, their family and the community. We have even added a fun day for children with autism and community this year.

    Getting backing from area businesses is tough so if we don’t get sponsors we aren’t able to hold our events. We believe there are many community based resources out there that are free or almost free but because of lack of exposure the community is not aware. The goal of NOGP is to change that.

    So we salute you Mr. Duncan in your efforts to get your voice heard. There are many out there who don’t have the celebrity to put out front but their cause is just as worthy. May you have continued success of your vision.

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